This is in answer to many of your questions regarding the darkness that envelops our life from time to time, in varied frequency. Awareness is the only solution to bridge this momentary separation from the truth that you are ONE with GOD.
This is an attempt to give you a helping hand to raise you to that level of awareness, which if you invest your time and energy on, will help you lead a life full of joy.
When man moves towards liberation from all that binds him to the earth that created life times on earth, each blocking factor will come to the surface to deter him from a total liberation. One by one they appear – the fears, the anxieties, insecurities, jealousies, anger, phobias, doubts, needs, desires, places, people, time, situations, relationships – the list is usually long. They all stay hidden in the hard drive of human existence as long as he leads a mundane life of total ignorance and repetitive past impressions. When awakening happens in him that everything around him is relative and false, shallow, repetitive or useless and the truth is the state of bliss and the mind with all its ingredients are blocking this realization and corresponding experience, man chooses liberation with all his heart and soul. This is a challenging time. These are the times when mind intensifies its efforts to capture man back to slavery over liberation. This is when various layers of darkness is brought to delude man from his progress. Mind fights and struggles to stay alive. Determination for salvation helps in this journey. Faith is the key. Faith is a must. Faith helps much more than any other understandings. When mind deludes, faith helps. When darkness deludes, faith comes as light. When he arrives at total liberation, everything will disappear, including mind and the faith. There will be no mind to even hold the faith.
Darkness that envelops occasionally for a period of time is caused out of illusion. Mind gets deluded at times because of overwhelming emotions. Mind even entertains delusions to stay alive. This is why nurturing objectivity at all times is extremely essential. When mind gets deluded, it starts to see the shadow instead of the form that created the shadow. It starts to believe that the shadow is real and feels that the form is absent or insignificant. It forgets the form, which is the true reality and connects to the shadow instead. This delusion is usually accented by concepts acquired from the past, repetitive habits, manifested impressions as well as wrong understandings saved by the mind over time. So, whenever dark patches of delusion falls into your mind, choose to be with light. Faith helps in such conditions. The darkness may attempt to delude even the faith. But, stay on and stay fast. Through the rope of faith, raise yourself to higher levels of awareness. Do not leave the rope ever. Just cling on. You may not realize. You may not know this, but it is true that this drama of mind, this soap opera has been repeated over and over again over life times. This is what all the wise men who ever walked the earth told us, warned us and taught us. One single truth were they repeating over time, that we are eternal beings temporarily deluded because of the wrong identifications on earth. We are liberated beings that forgot the state of liberation. We are liberated, here and NOW. The only shift we need is this awareness. Do whatever it takes to achieve that.
We should be careful that we should not entertain any thought, word or action that may take us even temporarily to the dark space of lack of light. We must be careful not to give in to the darkness; and our mind. We must perform only actions, words and thoughts that establish us in light. This would mean total unselfishness and total selflessness. Ability to share what we have without second thoughts effortlessly and ability to help unconditionally is extremely important. This is the existence of a true yogi. He will enjoy whatever is provided to him without guilt, will never cry over what he does not have, and will be willing to share whatever he has with whoever comes his way. This is the existence of a true yogi. Be aware.
Darkness and light cannot sit together. Darkness is delusion. It has nothing in it. No substance. It is just absence of light. Light has substance. It has energy. Darkness has no energy. Whatever has energy gives life. Energy is life. Life is energy. So, climb up the rope of faith into the awareness that you belong to the light because you have a life. Darkness cannot give you “LIFE”. Darkness has no substance. Lack of substance cannot give you any substance. Darkness can only give you emotions such as fear and insecurities.
Light gives energy. It never takes energy. Light illumines and brightens our life. It never takes our inherent brightness away.Darkness and delusion takes energy. Darkness consumes energy and leaves the person empty and sick.
Darkness is absence of light and it has no permanence. Light has permanence. Your true self is permanent. Hence you belong to the light. You are the light. In the case of human existence, ignorance of truth is darkness. Truth is that you are the light and you always will be. Untruth is the darkness of your terrestrial existence, along with the feeling that you are this entity or the image created for a period of time in the given living space – which is called one lifetime. This is temporary. You are not temporary. Darkness is temporary. You are not that. You are permanent. So, you are the light.
Since darkness and light cannot live together, only when light leaves can darkness exist. Darkness is non-understanding, ignorance and delusion. Darkness raises fear and disillusionment. Fears and delusions have no existence with light. Hence it is important to stay with light. Light is awareness. Awareness is light. Stay with the awareness that you are the light.
Mohanji probes further. What is the reality of the human condition? Is it possible to determine spiritual stature? What is the connection between the Guru Principle and the evolution of consciousness? A timeless tradition revisited through contemporary controversy. Mohanji leads us beyond mind, ego, and time-space limitations, beyond scandals which contaminate the inner space, to a clearer understanding of the grand merger of all paths into divine unity.
Stature of a saint
We create our realities. Whatever we fear will appear in our lives. Whatever we love can also be ours, if the intensity is right. Yet, what we fear has a better chance of manifesting in our lives because mind nurtures the negative more than the positive. This only pertains to human beings because our acceptance level of reality and life is much lesser than the beings of other species. So, if we have experienced certain realities in our life which did not lead us to a happy state, it is because of such trapped fears and insecurities or stored negative emotions. We should not blame others for our predicament, if we understand how the law of karma works. Moreover, most people cannot change or evolve into the higher in one lifetime. Metamorphosis is a process. It takes lifetimes of trials and errors to finally catch the ultimate truth from a quagmire of relative truths.
Look at the total population of the world. Let us take 7 Billion people and try to classify them for understanding’s sake. Please understand that this classification is generic and there could be exceptions and mixtures. We look at people in terms of their orientation, such as physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual and beyond everything. There could be physical, physical-emotional, emotional-intellectual etc. Hence, please consider this generic dissection only as a guideline to understand a point.
At least 35% of the people of the world are “physical” oriented. They indulge in physical, sensory gratification and lead a life of momentary pleasures.
Another 30% live in the emotional plane. They are more inclined to emotional gratification, gossip, sleaze, anxieties, fears so on and so forth. They live with their mind, totally controlled by the mind. These are the people who are hooked to soap operas which churn out nothing but emotions and related suffering. These people always make room for gossips and emotional negativity. They always react to life and call themselves victims of circumstances. They are more prone to psychological disorders.
About 20% of the total population lives in the intellectual plane. Their gratification is through their intellect. They do not have much to do with physical or emotional gratification. The so-called intellectuals such as thinkers, planners, strategists, scientists and all other intellectuals fit into this category. They consume knowledge, as well many other intellectual methods of self-gratification. They usually feel much superior than the other categories, ignorant of the fact that the concepts that they are consuming are binding them eternally. Many of them are self-centered and even cut off from the society. Many of them do not care for other beings pain or suffering. Many churn out theories using their brain which pushes development, but not always real progress. Most creations adds material comforts at the cost of alienation from the nature which directly affect every aspects of immunity that protects physical and psychological existence on earth. Many of the medicines and gadgets that man made have harmed man-kind. Many creations of man has destroyed the earth. Many of them are non-productive too. They just live in their own cloisters.
About 10% can be considered as spiritual. They are exploring spirituality and this interests them a lot. But, they are still only exploring. Many become escapists in the name of spirituality. Many fall into depression mode and either withdraw or repeat the same thing over and over again, without much benefit to themselves or others. Many do not know what they are looking for and of course, where to find it. Many fall into traps of rituals, predatory religions and cults.
The remaining 5% actually attain the highest, beyond the duality of existence. The rest fall either backwards or forwards. All the physical, emotional as well as intellectual members are also exploring the unknown through spirituality. But, they have limitations. In the case of the physical, it would be transactional worships for the sake of some benefit from God, with complete non-understanding. Most of the “physical” people queue up in front of temples and at the doorsteps of astrologers to pacify their insecurities. Emotion oriented people will either have blind faith rooted in devotion or follow others blindly. Emotion clarified is devotion, which can take one to the ultimate merger. Very few attain the capacity for total surrender and acceptance of everything that happens in their life with total willingness, endurance and non-resistance as the gift of God. This level is achieved through higher awareness, which is achieved by constant contemplation on the energy that runs our system which is also called – GOD. The power of all the great saints have been this surrender and acceptance with no doubts about themselves, their path, their guru and their destination. This is not easy to come to. The intellectual path is even more difficult because those on that path need reasoning for everything, which slows them down tremendously. They would face duality much more than anybody. Doubts and analysis plague them often. Acceptance would be lesser in them. They try to understand the workings of the subtle through their gross intellect. This is as tedious as making a camel cross through the eye of a needle. The spiritual types have actually crossed over many barriers such as the physical, emotional and intellectual walls. And they are determined to cross over to the realms of the subtle. But, they also could be controlled by their egos and sense of achievement, just like their cousins of other categories. Ego lurks in every state. It appears and disappears without calling. Ego is a permanent ingredient of human existence. Thus, out of the 10% spiritually inclined, 5% actually attain the highest. Thus is the case of the spiritual journey. It is not easy. All paths are good. All paths run parallel to the same destination. So, there is no need to worry whether a path is right or wrong or whether a guru is good or bad. All that liberates you time and again is good for you. All that liberates you from each level and leaves you liberated is good for you. Anything that binds you is bad for you, irrespective of whether it is a person, a place, a situation or an action. You are born free and should die free. Terrestrial existence is temporary. You cannot be bound here. Body is borrowed from the earth for the sake of experiencing earth just like you hire a rent-a-car when you go to a new city to travel through the city and do your errands. In our case, the soul has borrowed this body for this journey on earth. Karma is the agenda for the journey. Senses, mind, ego and intellect are the operating tools or navigation guides. Body must be given back when the job is over. So, living a liberated existence here and now is very important. Wasting time on the bed-time stories of other people has no value in our journey. All have such stories. There is darkness in every corridor. There is good and bad in everyone. Only those who have never sinned have the eligibility to throw stones. And those who have never sinned will never throw stones either, because they know very well that throwing stones at anything or anybody will pull them down for sure and one karmic being has no right to judge another.
I read that Amma herself responded to the criticisms against herself and her organization. She said three things in a very polite and matter-of-fact language:
Many children come to me with many expectations, large expectations. When these are not fulfilled, they turn around and criticize or scandalize. Children should not become angry like this. Anger is definitely a weakness. It is negative and can pull a person to the depths of negativity. Patience is strength. Children should exercise patience and not negative emotions.
Amma is an open book. Our ashram is also an open book. Any financial transaction happening here is recorded and filed with the government. Anyone who has a doubt can verify it anytime.
I never call people or ask people for favors. I have never asked anyone to come to me and serve me. All have come voluntarily. In the same way, all have the freedom to leave too. Why do you complain?
This shows the stature of Amma. Absolutely calm amidst a storm! This shows the stature of the individual. Totally unaffected and unperturbed! This also means that she is innocent. If there was any speck of pollution, anxiety or fear, it would have been visible. She is not a politician to mask all crimes with expertise and still go to people and ask for electing them to power again, as if nothing ever happened. The calm declares her purity.
Again, it would be a grave mistake to assess the stature of a saint by the yardsticks of his or her disciples. Usually, very few disciples could rise up to the stature of their master to receive the mantle from him or her. They will all be operating in different levels of consciousness. So, never measure the stature of a guru by looking at his disciples. Guru has accomplished the highest. Disciples are with the guru because they are aspiring to reach the state of their guru, if not the stature. So, they cannot be considered the same. State can be bought with money. Stature has to be earned. Stature is a state that cannot be bought. It takes a lot of efforts to become totally detached. When a person is totally detached, whether he drinks alcohol or smokes (like Shankar Maharaj, Shirdi Sai Baba), sleeps with women or visits brothels, it does not make any difference in their still state of mind. Stillness can never be disturbed by an activity once the saint attains it. Common man cannot understand the freedom that stillness of the mind or the mind-less state provides. They judge based on expressions and they fail to touch the real because of their mental blocks. Not being able to touch the real while existing is one of the real tragedies of a terrestrial existence.
Sometimes the saint observes silence amidst the storm of scandals. This is not because of his inability to speak out. This is because he is not pressured to speak. He is objective. He speaks only when he has to. He will not counter anyone’s emotions because he has nothing to do with it. Mind is still. Often, it so happens that the saint foresee the calamity and also use it to shake the tree of their own set up. This could help them shed many a dry leaves which does not help the tree. This will also help shed the tamas (inertia) among their disciples and swing them into positive action. So, silence could be because of foresight and a positive purpose. A scandal always works as a positive filter. It filters away the feeble, unsure or fickle and retains those who are truly connected. Hence a scandal is a good idea as a filter.
True Saints are soft targets in the gross world. They are usually defenseless. Many of those who have money, power, position and contacts gets away with anything. But, there are those to whom money flows because of their sheer stature and subtlety. They will never use their position, power, money or connections to save themselves. They will never manipulate minds. They are selfless. They are immortal while in the body and keeps the body only out of compassion towards their followers. The gross world which cannot see the subtlety of a saint always pumps bullets of scandals into their defenseless lives. The saint loses nothing. He was never bothered about his body anyway. He would just leave the body behind and expand into the ever present super expanded consciousness well beyond the body. The loss is for the world. Every generation has had many soft targets like this through the history of mankind.
The established religions, priests and preachers with acquired knowledge always become terribly insecure about a true saint who is connected to the source. They manipulate minds against the true saint. The saint does nothing to protect himself. He is completely surrendered to the will of the universe, a dharmic existence, almost like a being in the wild. From birth, until death, they are surrendered to the will of the nature. They cannot manipulate, accumulate, store or be greedy. They consume only what is essential for them. Even if there is excess or abundance of anything, it is distributed evenly for the needy. They only know how to give. They give all that they have. It adds up insecurities in the minds of the established priests and religious heads who sow fear to harvest people. Fear conquers minds much more easily than love. It is a very effective tool.They use the people to secure their own future, ensure power and maintain supremacy. A true saint has nothing to do with these. They are crucified, as they are innocent, soft targets. And since sex scandal gets maximum media attention as well as audience, that is the best ammunition against an unarmed saint. If you study the history of most of the scandals, you will see the thread of this phenomenon deeply embedded in every incident.
If expectations are not fulfilled, it leads to anger. Anger leads to need for justification. Justification demands need for companionship or isolation. In order to avoid guilt, people make themselves believe or convince themselves that what they thought, spoke and did was the right thing and they deserve attention from others. They become heavily insecure with their own proposition. Some people (usually of the same feathers) will buy their story and sympathize with them and give them company. Some will avoid them. These are all aspects of the play or maya or relative truth. Truth will always shine forth even if the cloud of doubts obscure the truth temporarily. Be aware of it and stay clear. No true guru who is connected to the source needs anyone or any kind of support. They are in the market place out of compassion for human kind as well as other beings. They are walking reminders for you as to who you really are. They represent the state which is your destination. You need them to be a road sign or a reminder to reach their stature. Be reasonable with yourself. By scandalizing a guru, you are destroying your own chance for the highest. This is because you are destroying the guru principle (guru tattwa) which you carry within yourself. You are free to be with any guru and you are also free to be away from them too. However, let your detachment from the guru arise because of your accomplishment in terms of higher state, not because you have differences in opinions, which is essentially a mind factor. If you want to know the stature of your guru, you need to go beyond your mind. From separation to oneness
It is important to respect every individual at every time, even if the person is harmful to society. If a person is harmful, use the law of the land to deal with it and save the society. We should never judge or condemn another. This will affect us more than the other. When poison for the arrow is manufactured in your house, remember, your house has more poison than what the tip of the arrow carries to others. Your inner space should remain pure. Using that state of purity, observe the contributions delivered by the saint to the world. In the case of Amma, how many people has she touched in this lifetime! How many have been given hope and solace by Amma! How many has been healed! How many people attained fulfillment! How many charity activities! How many acts of kindness! How many beautiful instances of guidance and teachings! This is what we should cherish. This is what we should nurture. We should look at the value of a saint who lives in the society with people in primarily two aspects – A. The clarity in her teachings. B. The charity that she does. In short – THE RELEVANCE! The physical and spiritual relevance. Let us never ignore that.
A request to all those who talk ill about amma or to all the people who talk badly about saints in general, please check how their life has added value to the world! How many people have been benefited! It is easy to live and die in one’s own cubicle of personal agendas, selfish pleasures, ownership, possessiveness, concepts, fears, personal family-ship, happiness and sorrows. When you decide to live your freedom, there is bound to be opposition. Those who cannot walk the path or those who cannot understand the path will certainly create road blocks. Do we have to budge? Do we have to change tracks? Live your own truth and discard the borrowed relative truths. Your experience and your truth has much more value in your life than other’s opinions. If you clearly understand that, it would be a great favor that you would be doing to yourself. In the path of dissolution, in the very end, when the disciple merges with the consciousness of the Guru, every relationship ends. There is no duality to maintain a relationship. There will be no Guru or disciple. But, cutting the relationship before total dissolution, would be a terrible mistake as well as a tragedy for the seeker even though it never affects any guru. In the beginning of the journey, a disciple will only see the superficial differences. It takes a lot of time and effort to see the unity of consciousness. There should be patience, perseverance, conviction and commitment. Otherwise, disciples will get stuck with the superficial. The problem with the superficial is that it only provides comparisons, infatuations and eventual disassociation if not depression. The agony of separation is usually terrible in the beginning. But, as the disciple comes closer and closer to the Guru’s consciousness, beyond the façade of superficial expressions and image, the pain slowly gets converted into bliss. Finally, when the merger of consciousness happens, there is only bliss, oneness. There is no separation, nor the related confusion. So, in the end, even the image, words and expressions will dissolve when you become the Guru’s consciousness. This is what we call totality or complete liberation. Here by the word Guru, I mean one who is connected to the source not one who is imparting acquired knowledge. Be aware of that.
In the beginning of the journey, there are only differences. The mind only recognizes the differences, the comparisons, and the superficial. When the disciple gradually approaches the unity of consciousness, the mind is forced to dissolve. Mind must dissolve to experience unity of consciousness. A struggle happens – often a bitter struggle, a war. Mind brings forth everything that could create alienation. This is a very confusing time. Mind asks you to run away and save yourself. Mind objects to the idea of the merger of consciousness and counters it with your deep-rooted or deep-set fears such as death, destruction, wrong paths, wrong gurus, fears of the unknown, so on and so forth. The real war is between the truth and illusion or between the soul and the mind. Mind likes to keep its comfort zones. Mind likes to keep its identities. Soul wants liberation from the illusory existence. Illusions capture us more than the soul. Soul exists in a liberated state always, which we will only know when we touch or feel the soul. Illusions keep us blinded from the truth. Guru represents the truth. The fears, doubts and illusions that the mind carries immerses the consciousness of the Guru in delusion, by projecting the superficial aspects such as the form and habits of the guru. This is why we discuss more about the superficial aspects of a Guru rather than his or her teachings and guidance. We are looking at the disparities or differences much more than the unity in consciousness. We are more connected to the terrestrial aspects of a living guru, including his wealth, sexuality, attire, mannerisms, etc, rather than the projection of the supreme consciousness or his connection to the source that actually made him Guru material. Masters who are connected to the source, shines. Nobody cloud can permanently take away the glory of the sun!
Why are we so bound by time and differences? It is because we are identifying and operating in time zones and not absoluteness. The body has a duration and that duration is measured in time. Having a body keeps us hooked to time. Hence it is essential to search for and understand the timeless in us. The timeless is our real state. That which is absolute in us is what we are, and not the body which is bound by time. The search begins in the mind and ends in the mind-less state. The very material that we use our mind to explore can only be understood when the mind is absent. This is something which every seeker should understand. Mind is the barrier between man and the absolute. Mind includes ego and intellect too. When we merge with the absolute there is no need for the mind because there is nothing apart from you. You have nothing more to “know” or “understand”. You are that! Tat Twam Asi. So, who is afraid of the singular TRUTH? Who is afraid of truth at all? Your mind. You are not your mind. Be aware of that. Appreciate their love and care
Why do we need the proximity of great saints at all? Why do we crave for it? The reason is that they represent the peace that has been eluding our lives since lifetimes. They represent our original state. They represent what we could be or what we are already, which our mind has hidden from us for so long. If the mind gets connected to a guru either due to infatuation or helplessness, the relationship cannot mature into unity of consciousness. When you are unable to cross the first mile of your road home, how will you ever reach your bed to rest upon? The proximity of the guru should reflect as your inner stillness, peace, strength, resolution, so on and so forth. Usually, a true guru will reflect your own state. Their reflection of anger mirrors your pent up anger; their overflowing love reflects your bottled up or unfulfilled love. They could even reflect your sexuality, hunger and all other personality traits. When the guru operates in unity consciousness, he or she becomes what appears before them, because they have already dissolved their mind and just honestly reflect what you are to yourself! This understanding would help a seeker when they approach a guru, provided they stop measuring their guru using their mind, including ego and intellect. The proximity of great saints is a constant warning, a constant reflection, constant removal of personality traits and also constant burning and churning of blocking negativities that distract one in the path of God. Many people prefer a guru who is not in his/her body because they cannot handle the personality of the living guru or they get terribly disillusioned by the living guru’s personality traits. The dead master is easier because what is in your mind about him is your reality. What he was or what he could have possibly done if alive does not matter anymore. The teachings, often expressed through others and not directly by the master himself, and their personal interpretation can easily provide a comfort zone for the confused seeker. They cannot think of changes within themselves. They would rather change the guru! A living guru eats, drinks, sleeps like any other man. A living guru may wake you up, even rudely, from your pretensions and fears. If this is a problem, I would suggest staying away from a living guru. True gurus are honesty incarnates. They only want the best for their disciples. Often, the disciples are not ready for the best. What you already are, you do not know. Mind has kept you disillusioned. When the mask of mind is removed, you will know what you already are, and the difference between what you ‘thought’ about yourself and what you actually are! Huge difference! Huge awakening! Here, the master is a road sign. He or she just guides as per your path. He never intrudes, yet will slap your hand when you are indulging in anything that prevents your progress in the path, whether your mind likes it or not. Comparing a true master who has dissolved his mind, to that of a seeker operating 100% from his mind is an absolutely wasted exercise.
Hence, spirituality needs acceptance and spontaneity. It needs understanding. In summary, live and let live. If crimes are committed by someone, or by a group, inform the legal authorities. Always exercise restraint and approach everything with caution and not reaction. Respond spontaneously and do not react violently.
All that any saint or master who is connected to the source does is accept support (including monetary) from those who can afford, and then pass it on to cater for those who cannot afford. They are creating a balance in society. They are diluting the imbalance between the rich and the poor. They lead by example. When such a saint’s living time becomes more valuable and they are provided with comforts to maintain them, this is only natural. When their horizon increases and more are benefited by their presence, they will have to do more to make themselves available to the world, irrespective of whether it is a fast car or a private jet. Everything depends on the value they add to the society. It applies to every human being and not only a saint. A CEO of a conglomerate will have to use sophisticated gadgets to run his empire. If a person who runs a small unit envies him and suggests that he should be simpler, it is absolute ignorance. Likewise, money and wealth comes to a saint as per the relevance of the saint to the world. However, they use it to give back more to the world. They hardly use anything for themselves because their terrestrial needs are minimal.This enhances their compassion and makes it more effective. We must appreciate their love and care and not be jealous of their facilities. As per requirements, facilities will happen. It is absolutely right to be a contemporary and use all the contemporary gadgets especially if the mission involves the public or the world. If the saint is sitting in the quiets of a cave or mountain, none of these matters anyway. The contemporary saint may not be even demanding it from anyone. It comes to them, as I had stated earlier. They are the people who could have anything, but needs nothing. They will never be understood in two dimensional class divides such as have’s and have not’s. This is the simple truth of existence.
Amma, from what I have understood, singularly supported almost 30,000 students post tsunami in Japan. She is said to have contributed more than what the UN or anyone did post tsunami in Indonesia. She built 100 crore worth of houses for Tsunami victims in India, which no organization, politician, spiritual leader, political party or government did. She is definitely using her wealth for good causes. Which politician who is hoarding public funds have we heard of doing anything close to what amma has done for the world? Do they share even a tea with a poor person? What are you complaining about? What right does anyone have to complain about Amma? What are you worried about? What are you afraid of? Her sheer stature is attracting people to her. No amount of envy can change that.
Finally, “The good that a man does is interred with his bones. The evil survives his death.” (William Shakespeare Julius Caesar ACT 3 Scene 2) All the good things a man does are easily forgotten. Only the wrongs are spoken about! This is true through time since the history of mankind. We are eternal gossip mongers, one way or the other. This is why we are more interested in Jesus’ sex life than his glorious teachings. This is why we are more interested in the private lives of all the public figures. This is why sleaze sells. We have always been like this. We bury 1000 good things that a man did for the world along with his body and talk about a few follies or acts of frailty through time. I was told that one channel alone used 384 hours to telecast the news when Shankaracharya of Kanchi was arrested. The same channel aired the news of his acquittal for 3 minutes! This is just an example of how negativity sells. Sleaze has it’s evergreen market. Buying into gossips, ignoring our experience is an absolutely useless exercise. Cherish the acts of glory and discard the acts of negativity. If a person is harmful to society, pass him or her on to the hands of law with evidence. There need be no emotions about it. Those who ate salt must drink water. There should not be any compromise. Character assassination is the sign of the weak and is a cowardly act. If there is disagreement, it should be discussed face to face and dissolved in good time, because our inner space should always remain clean and uncontaminated as we walk towards the path of total liberation. It is easy to contaminate the inner space, and difficult to clean it. Beware.
Infinite Love, Unconditionally
Fuelled by the current controversy surrounding Mata Amritanandamayi (Amma), Mohanji offers his perspective on this and other episodes of history, urging us to look deeper, beyond the money, sex and power games, beyond the physical, emotional and intellectual illusions of the mind, and to cultivate an awareness of the wisdom behind timeless spiritual traditions such as the Teacher / Guru Essence. This two-part powerful and insightful blog not only serves as yet another wake up call, reminding us that ALL living beings are interconnected and interdependent – but also sheds further light on our paths to liberation, and the attainment of unity consciousness.
Who is afraid of the TRUTH?
We believe that practices take us to perfection. Not always. We have practiced life and living many times over, yet we still remain imperfect! We believe that performing sadhana (spiritual practices) helps us reach God. Doing-ness is bound by time. We believe that reading and acquiring knowledge takes us to perfection. Intellect is bound by time too. Retention has a duration. Memory has limitation. All that we learn from outside may not even become our reality, as we chew much more than we can digest. Anything in us which is bound by time cannot take us to the timeless. Only the timeless within us can merge our consciousness to the timeless. That timeless is the true you. That is your true nature. So, as we start our journey on the path of spirituality, such questions will keep cropping up. Am I on the right path? Am I that or is this the truth? Whatever limits you, including food, clothing, sex, shelter, space, time, relationships, concepts, fears, phobias, terrestrial love, hatred, possessiveness, so on and so forth, is not representing your true nature. Causeless love is definitely an expression of your true nature. Causeless is the real you. Causes are just expressions. Causes are bound by time. Measurable time is expression bound. Measurable expressions are time bound. Thus interconnected they are!
We live in a world of extreme variety. There is a constant tug-of-war between the truth and the untruth, the real and unreal, illusion and reality, the good and the bad, between good and the evil. We watch it played out every day on television channels and in our own minds, when we try to digest the scandalizing truths vomited out by the media, and mostly modified to suit their audience, or whoever pays their bills. The common man is always confused. He is always kept confused. This state in society is needed for the media to stay in business.
What has led me to write all this, are the hours of discussions about a recently released book on Mata Amritananda Mayi Devi which has created quite a storm. I have not read the book, nor have I touched a copy of it. However, since many people have asked me whether I agree or disagree, I have decided to make my position on this very clear.
I look at life objectively, without any emotions. Whenever there is emptiness outside of us, it is just a reflection of the emptiness within us. Inner void and outer void are inter-connected. Yet, to change the outer void, we need to change the inner void. Inner strength is always reflected in our outwardly expressions. This being the case, I look at the history of mankind with amusement. There has always been a struggle between the binding, controlling, law-making side of humans and the liberated, unbound and selfless “truth-sayers”. Time and again, whenever someone spoke the truth, they were scandalized, even crucified, and later philosophies and religions were formed based on their teachings after they were shamelessly assassinated. In short, a true saint was not recognized during his time. It always took the future generations to honor a saint. I can quote many examples. John the Baptist, Jesus, Socrates, even our own Shirdi Sai Baba, Bhagawan Nityananda to name a few. During their time, none of them were truly honored or respected. John the Baptist was beheaded. Jesus was crucified. Socrates was given poison and killed. Shirdi Sai Baba was taken to court for a paltry matter. When Radhakrishna Mayi became pregnant, people accused Baba of being the child’s father. Bhagawan Nityananda was asked by local officials to reveal the source of his income based on complaints by people!(the very people who had been tremendously benefited from him). When the officials threatened to arrest him, Bade Baba (Bhagawan Nithyananda) took them to a pond and told them it was there that he got his money from. When the officials decided that they were being fooled, Bhagawan jumped into the pool and came out with a pot of gold coins, saying his finances came from here. When the officials recognized the stature of Baba, they left. The point is that contemporaries never recognized the stature of any living saint and it always took the next few generations to honor a past saint. Generation after generation, the same habits continue. We scandalize, arrest or kill a saint or anyone who lives and speaks the real truth. There is only one absolute truth – that we are indeed one with God. In other words – Aham Brahmasmi (I am Brahma). Those who cannot see beyond relative truth, who identify themselves with limited identities such as their body, mind or intellect and who are proud of their terrestrial stature, have never agreed with any liberated person, living beyond man-made rules.
No generation ever appreciated a living Guru. They only idolized the dead. When we scandalize anyone, someone who does good to society, the world, to people, birds or animals, be aware that we are just following the same old repeated history of intolerance. We are no different from those who crucified Jesus, poisoned Socrates or Osho. We are no different from those who burned people at the stake in Europe. The same people who orchestrated the inquisition, ethnic cleansing, and all the wars and worries of the world. We are the same. We have been seriously concerned more about the private life and specifically the sex life of a public figure, than his message/contribution to the world. We never appreciated the contributions of great people while they were alive, however we did glorify and idolize politicians, who cheated, stole and danced with borrowed feathers (money and talent). The names of streets carry the name of politicians who perhaps even swindled money and manipulated people. No saints are honored even in their own home town. Adi Shankara got no support from the local people of his community to cremate his own mother. Today, we respect him as the master (saint) of the era. The great Sant Jnaneshwar and his brothers and sister were made to starve by the then society. His parents were asked to commit suicide by the people of their time, as repentance for shedding renunciation. All the great masters have endured deep humiliation from their own society. Look into the history, you will know. We have nothing to be proud of. If we can correct ourselves now; well and good. Otherwise, history will repeat itself. It is repeating itself over and over again.
Character assassination is usually a byproduct of jealousy. There is also jealousy in the spiritual circles. The phenomenon of one-upmanship and its associated power struggles are happening in all aspects of the society. The spiritual world, despite the isolation and self-oriented lifestyle, is not immune to the egos of existence. Instead of unification, many so-called spiritual gurus are keener on building walls and dividing people between groups. All spiritual teachers are relevant because they cater to someone in society. We cannot under-estimate any nor can we question their relevance. But, what example should they set to the sundry seekers of the world if it is not peace, harmony and oneness beyond even species barrier? The key aspect of any spiritual path is self-actualization. There are many paths one can choose to achieve that, as per his or her inherent constitution. Who can question that? One is free to choose his or her guru, even though the scriptures declare that the one who appears to you is the right one for you, just like our school classes where the teacher that appeared in one class helped us cross over to the next. The power wars within the spiritual circle, the silly egos and disagreements among spiritual gurus, the extended disagreements of their disciples or in short, a lack of unity is destroying the very fabric of the age old, time-tested principles of sanatana dharma or the basic ground rules of our very existence. Name, fame, money and power are getting to people’s heads. Under the masks of spirituality, crimes are committed. Religions are waging wars even at the cost of destruction of lives. Unless the purpose becomes solely the elevation of the awareness of the masses, unless efforts become unified, unless unity consciousness happens among spiritual gurus, there is no protection, hope or continuity. If all the spiritual teachers stay separated, the whole path of sanatana dharma will decay. Unity for the preservation of the age old tradition of tolerance is important, more than ever, at this juncture of time. Character assassination always has a strategy and profit motive behind it. There is a definite vested interest behind character assassination. If you looked into the minds of the so-called moral police, you would see dark desires lurking behind their seemingly benevolent expressions. There is an agenda being played out. It never affects a real saint. Jesus made his point through the cross that he is beyond the cross and because his conviction shook the conscience and consciousness of generations, Christianity was born. People are waking up to Osho more than ever before, many years after his death. Even people of the time never spared Shirdi Sai Baba when they blamed Baba for Radhakrishna Mayi’s pregnancy! Today, Shirdi Baba temples are in every corner of the world. Character assassination has been attempted towards almost every contemporary saint by the then generation and there is someone’s vested interest in it. Who is afraid here -other saints, other religions, businessmen, regular followers who come with expectations or the politicians of the country? Someone is affected for sure by the overwhelming presence of the saint. Someone is benefited by the character assassination of a popular saint. Truth always wins eventually, even though the history that the world gets to see is not always the absolute truth. It is usually choreographed or the opinion of someone who witnessed it or assessed it. This may not be the absolute truth. It is usually a version of the absolute truth. People usually never get to know the absolute truth. Everyone is fed versions or opinions, under the pretext of truth, by the manipulators of the world, or by those who run the world – the politicians, media moguls, other religious heads so on and so forth.
Truth is given on a platter in the form or an enlightened master and society chooses to crucify him just because the truth became blasphemy to conditioned ears accustomed only to the relative truths! With the body thus destroyed, the consciousness that survived starts to perform without hindrance and this becomes an eye opener to many! Oh My God! We missed a chance! The good man has died. Let us make a religion out of him! This is how masters are missed and religions are made.
Commerce rules the world today. Everything sells. Even spirituality is sold in packets as courses. This is not what we want to discuss here. This is not our cup of tea. This commercial network also is a marriage between businessmen, spiritual persons and politicians. This is a completely different story. I do not even want to comment about it because there is nothing spiritual in it except the name or flavor. Control, power, money and possessions are the norm here. This is totally a terrestrial matter. We can talk about it some other time, if it is worth the breath.
Remember, once again, no saints or avatars were accepted during their time. Almost all are all posthumous celebrities. Jesus was a man of flesh and blood at one time. He ate food and slept. Krishna and Radha were two human beings who existed 5000 years ago. They also ate food, drank water, used toilet and slept. Shirdi Sai Baba, Akkalkot Maharaj, Ramana Maharshi, Swami Vivekananda, Buddha were all saints who lived in flesh and blood at some point in time. We remember them and revere them with respect today. This is because they added value to our life. We value their time when they add value to our life. We do not consider the time they spent on themselves, even for meditation. It does not matter to us. Value for us is when value is delivered to the world by any saint or philosopher. But, a word of caution here – all that glitters is not gold. There are many fakes in the world. Usually the ones who possess only acquired knowledge but resemble past masters in form, name or title. We can ignore them. They are not connected to the source. True saints are only those who have crossed over and are connected to the source. We are only talking about these here.
Those who are connected to the source lead a completely different life style. Many will be unpredictable to the core. This is because dharma is their guiding factor, not karma. Vyasa impregnated Amba and Ambalika because the dynasty was coming to an end. He also impregnated the maid, the mother of Vidura. Vidura is a son of Vyasa. If it happened today, there would be hours of debates on our channels supporting and criticizing Ved Vyasa. Vyasa, Vasishta, Krishna, Buddha, Jesus, Ramana Maharshi, Baba and all else knew exactly what they were supposed to do on earth. They never wasted even a moment of their existence on paltry, self-entertaining matters. They did everything for a higher purpose. Relative truth vs. absolute truth
The war is between relative truth and absolute truth. Relative truth is based on faculties of perception and faculties of action that come within a frame called the body. Absolute truth is related to the energy that runs the machine called the body and its associated infrastructure. Relative truths are based on approved methods and patterns. Approved realities and perceptions are those that can also be categorized as morality. Morality is a word that people use when they need to shield themselves. Morality is relative in our society. It changes with generations, time and space. It changes with religions and interpretations too. So, morality is a flexible piece of equipment. Usually, it is used for taking advantage over another by one person or a group of people. Morality is a sensitive tool. It can wreak havoc.
Avadhootas such as John the Baptist, Bhagawan Nithyananda or Sai Baba never cared about this pretentious morality and always reveled in the absolute truth. They went on with their work irrespective of what others thought about them or not. This is a clear sign of a liberated saint. They have no opinion about others nor do they care about others’ opinions. All are karmic beings. There has to be ups and downs in all. This is the variety of existence.
Let us look at the relative truth that propels our life forward. (Well, forward, backward or status quo is debatable). Look at the flip side of the relative truth that we enjoy each day. A politician, a rock star, a film star or a rich man womanizes or abuses drugs, hoards money or accumulates wealth; the whole system comes to their rescue. Even if they are arrested and imprisoned for crimes like stealing public money, they get special preferences in the prisons of the world. Their wealth will buy prestige for them. They get re-elected to power and positions. There are even terrorists and dictators who have massacred people, and yet are honored. (Eg: Polpot of Cambodia who killed more than 2 million children, women and men, died of old age. Even in the last interview with media, he said “I did it for the country” and the world pardoned him!) Men who make ammunitions and weapons that destroy lives are well accepted in society and even considered as protectors or harmless, while someone who tries to do good without consideration for profits or benefits is crucified! Drugs are experimented on humans, prisoners, victims from every species in the name of science and progress.
Human greed has destroyed more than half the forests of the world. Most of the spaces thus made are used for factory farming and human housing. When natural habitats were removed, many species perished. Many species are on the verge of extinction. 7 Billion People are consuming 21 billion birds and animals each year. Half the grain cultivation of the world is used to feed animals for slaughter. 12 pounds of grain can produce one pound of flesh! If 12 pounds of grain were given to one family, that family could survive for a week. One pound of meat is not sufficient for one man for a day! One acre of land can produce 40000 pounds of potatoes, 50,000 pounds of tomatoes and only 250 pounds of meat. What a gross wastage of our resources and environment! Genetically modified food is destroying human species. Naturality is lost. Holocaust is happening every minute. Millions of living beings are slaughtered for food each day across the world. An average factory in a developed nation kills more than 100 cows in an hour! Remember, almost all living beings have an awareness level of a 2 year old human child. They feel love and fear. They feel the pain of separation. They have the ability to love unconditionally. They care for their offspring. Man imprisons them, tortures them and kills them for selfish pleasures. Superiority of race, if there is anything of that sort at all, should be expressed in our ability to express unconditional love and compassion beyond time barriers. It is our ability to express kindness that makes us human. It is our refinement in thoughts, words and action; and not greed and selfishness that truly qualifies us as human! If we can protect and care for other lives, we are worthy of being considered as humans. Otherwise, we are worse than animals, with intelligence but no sensitivity, compassion, kindness or wisdom, let alone awakening. History said “never again” when millions of Jews were slaughtered by Hitler’s militia. Yet, history has seen the same type of crime and gross injustice repeated in Cambodia under Pol Pot when he systematically assassinated men, women and children, during the Nanking Massacre by Japanese military where they made camp fires and burned children alive in front of their mothers in it; and with the killing of countless men and women in Iraq, Egypt, Syria, Afghanistan, Yugoslavia and so many other countries. We still kill thousands of beings, each moment. Is Killing a being of another species considered natural, while killing humans is called murder? Pregnant cows are slaughtered and the calves in their wombs are put inside incinerators. (See my blog on cruelty against animals). This is not punishable by the laws of any country in the world. Where is our sense of justice? Where is justice? When we accept such blatant acts of cruelty, what can we cry for? Crime breeds crime. Insensitivity creates revolution in society. Sexual suppression leads to sexual anarchy. Suppression of anything leads to eventual anarchy. The human mind craves for whatever is denied. This is the nature of the human mind. Every human being walking on earth must focus their attention on things that matter to themselves and the generations to come. They should be concerned about the state of the world today. They should be aware of the destruction that has taken place already and the decay happening each moment. They should know that the world is dying each moment; it is becoming more and more uninhabitable. We are cutting the very branches of the trees that are housing us. In the last 100 years, mankind has destroyed and devastated the earth than ever before since mankind began. Especially in the past 50 years, that is our very time, man kind has consumed the resources of earth much more than ever in the history of mankind. We are on a destruction spree. Totally indiscriminate. Unfortunately, the development in technology is increasing the potential for destruction. Earth has deteriorated to the maximum in the last 100 years. We must be aware of this. We must do something about it. Money
Money is a big deal. This is one of the key issues in the book, as I understand it, against Amma. How does money happen? What attracts money? The answer is simple. Stature attracts wealth. When the person moves from basic gross existence to the subtler aspects of himself, more and grosser get attracted to him or her. The symbol of Ananta Sayana in the Hindu system is a clear sign of this point. Ananta is infinity, the snake which coils as a bed for Maha Vishnu, the preserver of everything to rest upon. Maha Vishnu lies in Yoga Nidra, which is a state of Samadhi, when your consciousness is spread all over the universe and has merged with the universal consciousness, in other words, when you have become the source. In this state, there is no individuality; there is only universality and hence everything that is part of the universe is also part of you. You are the universe. No individual karma. There is only dharma, truthful and unselfish duty in the performance aspect. Lakshmi, the wife of Maha Vishnu sits at His feet. Lakshmi represents wealth and prosperity. In a nutshell, when a person embraces the subtle, wealth is at his feet, or at his disposal. There is purity and legitimacy in this wealth. When a gross person chases gross wealth, it eludes him and often he gets it contaminated. People even sell their souls to earn wealth and suffers through lifetimes. Subtlety of existence is the key for wealth. Subtlety attracts material benefits spontaneously. And by that time, the person who has already embraced the subtle may even have nothing to do with physical wealth. (I believe Amma is in this state. She has nothing to do with wealth. Wealth happens to her spontaneously). They are already in the absolute bliss state of sat (the essence of creation or the essence of the supreme), coming into contact with “chit” (the unit or our substratum which feels and experiences the alienation from the “sat”). The “ananda” or bliss takes place when chit merges with sat, and there is absolute bliss of unity in consciousness. In this state, money or wealth have no value. They come to you spontaneously, because of the simple fact that subtlety always attracts the gross or even wealth.
So, when people talk about Amma hoarding wealth, my opinion is that Amma does not need wealth. She has sufficient wealth inside of her. Real wealth is that which is not visible to human eyes. The wealth of Spiritual bliss! This wealth cannot be conquered. It has got to be earned through the constant shedding of all the identifications that keep blocking the spiritual progress of an individual. Whether Amma has hoarded physical wealth or not, she is obviously truly rich inside. This energy, this wealth, is visible to all, all of the time. She is never tired. And, this inner richness was visible in her calm and composed reply to the scandal to the public. No remorse, no complaints, only love! Emotions and sex
Spurious food leads to contamination of the body and deterioration of health. Spurious emotions will lead to contamination of the mind. The more we acquire such information, store it and energize it, the more it seriously affects our consciousness.
Ignorant people lead a contaminated existence without any knowledge of the levels of contamination they are carrying. Most of what we carry in our minds today is unwanted and insignificant material or trash of the world.
Organs of perception can only see the superficial. They cannot see the third dimension of the individual. And simplicity happens with subtlety. Subtlety brings simplicity. Nothing that the world can ever offer matters to a liberated saint. Then life becomes simple, without the conflicts produced by the mind.
Several political party members and religious leaders have been speaking on television about this matter. Listening to their verbal diarrhea, my thought has been “Those who have not “sinned”, may throw stones at her”. Who has the right to point a finger at Amma? Honestly, I feel that if rape has happened in the ashram, it is important that the victim should immediately bring this to the attention of law makers, police or at least Amma. Forced sex is not acceptable. We have no right though to condemn consensual sex between two adults who indulge in it with full awareness and desire. There is a thick line between the two. One is exploitation, molestation etc while the other is gratification. Every being walking, crawling or flying on earth is bound by food and sex. Nobody can deny that. Food to sustain the body because body is made from elements, and food being a supplement which nourishes the body. Likewise, sexuality sustains the species. No beings on earth other than human beings use food and sex as recreation. Hence, all the rules and regulations pertaining to these two integral aspects of human existence apply only to human beings. If someone who operates in society came to me and said “I have overcome my need for food and I have no sexuality”, I would immediately think – “either he is sick or he is lying”. In spirituality, when chit merges with sat and the person attains states of Samadhi, sexuality and the need for food dissolve. This is a state of bliss. We should not compare that with the mundane existence of an average human being, an ordinary sexual being. Hence, lack of sexuality is something I never buy, when people boast about their detachment. Often, these are the very people who scandalize other people, because what they could not achieve is sour for them in every way and jealousy haunts them. I do not believe that amma is bound by any of the above two. Hours of sitting at one place without food definitely signifies an altered state of consciousness. Who can achieve such feat without no mind state? I cannot buy the idea that amma is a sexual being. She has a human body. In case if she is, then, it is none of our business. She has the right for privacy just like any of us. She has the freedom and eligibility as an Indian citizen to lead her life, within the boundaries of the laws of India.
Again, I insist that forced sex, rape and molestation should be reported to authorities as and when it happens and not 15 years later through a book. This is a big disfavor to fellow saints or sadhus, because if it is true, within 15 years, so many more could have been affected. In this context, please also remember that sexual frustration leads to aggression. Many people who embrace the life of renunciation have arrived there out of tragedies or insecurities and not because of a genuine desire to merge with God. God consciousness is not a choice. It is a state. It has to happen through nullification. It cannot be forced. God realization is a happening. Suppression, oppression or masking of inherent traits never help actualization, on the contrary, it takes one away from the track completely. Even if we are in a market place, or if we are a non-renunciate as per the regular norms, God consciousness can happen at anytime for sure. It does not matter whether you are a family person, whether you are having sex or not. So, when sexuality is suppressed due to the pressure of the robe or renunciation, aggression can happen. Whatever is suppressed will erupt sooner or later. Hence, either obtain gratification at the right time, in the right way, or increase awareness to surpass bodily needs by withdrawing the senses from objects of sensuality. This is easier when a person chooses no contact with any being of its kind. Perfect renunciation! When a saint is constantly inter-acting with the sundry people of society who carry various emotions, fears, desires and perceptions as well as sexuality, it is very likely that control of the senses can become a big problem. Hence I suggest that consensual sex should be fine because it is a choice that the person makes. Non-consensual is definitely unacceptable and should be condemned. Once again, I fail to see why an event is not conveyed as and when it happens. Why does one have to wait all these years, as is the case for the author of the book, to come out with such revelations, 15 years after abandoning Amma’s ashram? There could be a conspiracy. There could be vested interests. This is my reading.
I personally feel that each being that walks on earth deserves to have privacy. It does not matter whether he is a bird, animal or a human being. It does not matter whether he or she is a saint, businessman, celebrity, public figure or a person among 1000s of others. Everyone has a personal constitution, character, needs and desires, apart from the generic ones such as food, sleep, toilet, and sex. I believe that we should allow this privacy to all individuals. Why are we haunting celebrities? Why can’t we accept their teachings instead of their bedroom stories? Bedroom stories never elevate anyone’s consciousness. They only tickle or rather contaminate one’s inner space. The teachings though could be quite elevating and purgatorial. Please have a conscious thought about this. Do not get carried away with scandals or others’ opinions. Just ensure you remain objective at all times. And keep asking the question – “Do we have the right or criticize another at all?”. Certainly, raise your voice against injustice and violence; but, only with first hand confirmation, not because of others words or opinions. We may have tremendous regrets about it in the future.
Recently, some people who came to see me asked my opinion about the life of Jesus. Questions asked included “Did he survive the cross? Did he live the rest of his life in India? Did he have a child with Mary Magdalene?” My answer was straight and simple. “I do not know and I do not care. Jesus’s public life ended with the cross. As far as the world is concerned, there ended his physical relevance. If he lived beyond the crucifixion, it has no value for us, as his public life ended with the cross. His teachings survived through his followers. This is the relevance that he left behind. We need to be concerned only about that. Seekers should concentrate only on the teachings of the guru for their personal growth.We have got Jesus’s teachings through the mouth or interpretation of his disciples, those who walked with him. Nobody told any further stories of his life after his crucifixion or about his further life. We should stick to the relevance of a saint. I look at life in terms of effective years and non-effective years. Effective years are those when the saint was contributing to the world with what he had, the non-effective years (as far as the world is concerned), are the ones which the saint spent for himself. So, if we stick to this method, we shall remain reasonably clear and also pure inside always.” Furthermore, why would I care if Jesus had sex with Mary? How does that help our spiritual growth? I would like to think of it in this way. First of all, it is no big deal as it would have been consensual sex. Secondly, if it happened, it would have been for the sake of fulfillment as unfulfilled desires become fuel for another life. Hence, it would be better to complete and exit from this life. So, before we judge another, we should look within. Thirdly, does this information help us today in anyway? Is it elevating our consciousness at all? Or are we just trying to find excuses for our own fickle desires or character deficiencies? Hence, I would urge the reader to marry the teachings and not the guru. Use the teachings for one’s own higher evolution and not to choose for intellectual comparisons and eventual judgment.
If Lord Krishna was living today, he would have created more scandals than Bhagawad Gitas. 🙂 His relationship with Radha alone is enough. Apparently Radha was already married when Krishna used to visit Barsana, which was a few kilometers away from Vrindavan, under the pretext of grazing cows, to see Radha. Barsana was her husband’s house. Today, we worship Radha and Krishna. We celebrate their romance. His legitimate wives such as Rukmini and Satyabhama are not worshipped as much as Radha. When we can accept this, why then are we so fascinated about a holy mother’s private life? I am confident that a saint of Amma’s stature is well beyond all the needs of the body. It is obvious. But, society loves scandals, especially sex scandals. Why are sex scandals so important and how do they sell so much? Because of generations of sex starvation and pseudo morality. In a sex starved world controlled by pseudo morality, the best tool for character assassination is a sex scandal. The media loves it because sleaze gets maximum viewership. The very rich and the very poor are immune to it. They do what they like and let the winds of morality blow wherever with their money or lack of it. Lack of money gives freedom as there is nothing to lose, just as having money also gives freedom because you can buy almost anything with it including respect in the society. Actually speaking, it is a waste of time. As I said earlier, aggression which becomes oppression for some, should be controlled by the law. Otherwise, we should definitely respect the privacy of every person. The more suppressed we are, the more aggressive we become within. This will take us further away from a peaceful existence.
Infinite Love, Unconditionally
Everybody has potential. Everyone craves it. Everyone gets it at some point in their lives. Everyone cannot maintain it. Everyone suffers from the lack of it. Everyone misses it. This is the story of elegance.
Intellect is integrally attached to elegance. It gets reflected in one’s thoughts, words and actions. Being elegant is an art. This cannot be pretentious. Pretentious elegance cannot be maintained. It becomes situational. Many celebrities are victims of it. They often become terribly disillusioned when they cannot bridge the gap between the fake and the real. They fall to self-destructive abuse and even death. All the tantrums they display are usually expressions of their deep insecurities. These are clear signs of their not coming to terms with themselves and their acquired status. Status can be acquired but not stature. Stature has to happen. It needs eligibility. It needs grounding. Stature happens with increase in awareness. It needs deeper awareness of the thread that runs between status and activities performed each day; the thread that runs between the man and the mission. The thread that unites everything to the place of action and the thread that keeps the beads of events and life together. Being with the thread, being totally aware, will reflect as maturity, groundedness or even elegance.
Elegance can be nurtured and for that intellect should be in command at all times. When intellect is in command, there will be no excesses. Everything will be in moderation.
Elegance cannot be acquired from outside. It has to happen inside, with the right attitude of flexibility. Situational elegance can be termed as pretention or even a facade. Elegance through time and space needs equanimity and clear understanding of the role play of life. It can even be called a spiritual and social maturity. Elegance never permits complaints of any kind. It is a clear understanding as to what happens, why it happens and for whom it happens. The purpose is clear. Even if the purpose is not clear, there is no resistance to the events of life. There is only management of everyday matters as they appear, while keeping the boat of equanimity steady. Elegant acceptance of reality as it is, makes a man irresistible.
Elegance has nothing to do with habits. It is not dependent on whether a man is a gambler, alcoholic or a womanizer. These traits if left uncontrolled could lead to his downfall, but they do not affect his elegance, per se. If weaknesses bind him, they pull him down. If he is socially compatible, it usually shows his nature of flexibility. Elegance does not mean compromising or conforming to every whim of society. Elegance is in accepting realities and living it in style. A non-conformist could also be totally elegant. Elegance has nothing to do with social morality either, though social acceptance does help in life. If someone compromises too much to be socially acceptable, he cannot be considered as elegant.
Any activity that provokes and maintains weakness of any kind is never to be entertained. Every habit can be termed as weakness. Every emotion can be termed as weakness. Notions, knowledge and understanding can also lead to weakness. Operating tools such as mind and intellect can lead to weakness of character. Elegance is in independence. Elegance is in existing in freedom within. Elegance is in flowing with life. Elegance is in not stagnating, physically, mentally and intellectually.
The factors that pull a man down are primarily his own constitution such as the state of mind, thought processes, fears and phobias, dependency on other people and dependency on a time, space or an activity. Any dependency can bring forth weakness.
Truth is something that stirs your being. It gets reflected in the mind. Elegance is basing oneself on the real truth beyond dualities. This makes man fearless. Elegance is fearlessness. Man exists on earth based on relative truths. This de-stabilizes his mind and confuses his existence. When he shifts to the absolute truth, to the very thread that gets reflected as beads, he attains equanimity. He attains elegance.
Once this is attained, nobody can pull him down. Nothing can affect him anymore. He will start seeing through the ups and downs of life in perfect equanimity. The stature that is based on absoluteness of existence creates spontaneous equanimity. In order to achieve that, witness-hood is necessary. Witnessing one’s thoughts, words and actions without emotions will lead to power over them. This is not situational power. This is perpetual power. That power can take one above mundane existence to absolute beingness.
Elegance exists through happiness and sorrow, time, space and situations. It is a perpetual state. It is a state of no excesses. It is perfection in existence. It never sways the mind. It never gets affected by people, places or events. Elegance is a perpetual state. It is beingness.
When no good or bad events affect a personality, when nothing can adversely affect a personality, when the operating level is based on equanimity, that person has transcended the mundane existence. That one has liberated himself.
Elegance can be consciously nurtured when daily life is handled only by the intellect and never by emotions. When intellect rules, man has no regrets. Lack of guilt and regrets help maintain elegance. When emotions rule, it gives room for all negative emotions. That leads to downfalls. Emotion only creates regrets and dissatisfaction. It can never give perpetual fulfillment.
Emotions lead to temporary pleasures which cannot be termed as absolute fulfillment. The fulfillments that a person experiences out of emotions are usually temporary. It leads from emotion to emotion with decreasing levels of satisfaction and eventually, it tires the person into disillusionment.
Elegance happens as wisdom increases. When awareness enhances wisdom, equanimity takes place. That leads to elegance in life style. All true masters have consistently displayed extra ordinary elegance, even if some of them lead a life of a fakir or a beggar on the street. Their elegance was unmistakable. If you digest the lives of saints well, you will see the underlying elegance displayed beyond time and space and even through death. Lack of dependency allows absolute elegance.
Where does elegance come from? Equanimity. Equanimity happens out of Awareness. When you are clearly aware of the temporariness of your thoughts, words, actions and even your existence on earth, mind becomes silent. Mind stops jumping from tree to tree of desires. Mind keeps quiet.
Less desire leads to better equanimity and balance in existence. This never takes away the pleasures of life; instead, you will better enjoy the fruits of existence without the mental barriers and expectations. This will help better enjoyment of life because the pressure for pleasure is less. When mind stops pushing man for pleasure, whatever is available is more enjoyable. Otherwise, comparisons and corresponding dissatisfaction, prevent all pleasures of existence.
Elegance is attractive. It transcends beauty, power, money, position or status. The inner stability reflected through the life of purpose brings forth irresistibility. An elegant man becomes irresistible to society. He becomes an icon. He needs not prove anything. His lifestyle itself becomes his message. It attracts people to him. An elegant personality is highly irresistible.
Elegance springs out of a life managed by intellect instead of emotions.
Elegance needs absolute selflessness. Selflessness in thoughts, words and action keeps a man elegant.
Elegance needs equanimity through time and space.
Elegance cannot be affected by persons, personalities, situations, time or space.
Elegance is beyond the mannerisms or immature states of other people. Nothing can affect an elegant personality or his perpetual elegance.
Elegance is not in dressing up or showing off. It is in handling life elegantly at all times.
Elegant lifestyle is an art and a perpetual expression of how life can be.
Elegance is in inner stability beyond changes of time, space, situations and people.
Elegance is in the ability to see through situations into the thread that runs through time, people, place and personality; and remain unaffected.
Elegance is in being happy irrespective of whether a person, a situation, a dish or a place is available or not.
Elegance is in discipline of life, not influenced by emotions, time, people or space.
Elegance is absolute objectivity.
Elegance is the ability to keep one’s position absolutely steady against all odds and storms of emotions in life.
Elegance is in conviction and the ability to act accordingly against all odds.
Elegance is in being you through time and space.
Elegance is in being kind, compassionate and non-violent irrespective of time and space.
Elegance is in being elegant. What do people like in a man or a woman? It is not their beauty. It is their elegance. Beauty is transitory. It changes with time. Elegance is permanent. It stays through time. Elegance maintains beauty of character. Elegance maintains a life of equanimity. Elegance maintains relationships beyond emotions. Elegance enhances you and makes your life complete and satisfied. There are no do’s and don’ts in elegance. It is not in what you do, but, how you do it, that determines elegance. It is your attitude associated with every activity.
Indifference is no virtue. We should feel. Feel for ourselves and feel for others. For a self-centered man, spiritual evolution is not easy. Man, as a general rule, is essentially selfish. No doubt. Even animals are selfish. They take care of themselves first and then leave the rest to the others. Man certainly takes care of himself, but usually cannot let others enjoy anything, as he likes to hoard everything for himself. This is how the world works. The world has provided sufficient materials for everyone’s need, but not for everyone’s GREED!!!
True evolution happens when our personal matters become secondary and others’ matters become our priority. Selflessness is the first shift visible in a true spiritualist. There are many seekers who are extremely self-centered. Their growth gets stagnated beyond a limit. The expansion of the anahata (heart chakra) is synonymous to spiritual growth. Our detachment becomes expressive when unconditional love replaces selfishness.
Let’s classify people according to their basic traits or character. Vasana (inherent nature or trait) becomes a thought. Thought becomes a word or expression. A word becomes action. Repeated actions become one’s character.
There are elementary men. They are emotional by nature. They do not use their intellect at all. We can divide them into emotionally good and emotionally bad. Some are bad by nature. They are selfish and only live for themselves. They live their life in complete anarchy. They are capable of creating lots of nuisance in the society. There are many such people in this world. They cheat, steal and kill. They are like animals in human bodies. They do not care. They do not use their intellect at all.
They live an emotional life. An example in Mahabharata is Dusshasana, brother of Duryodhana, the Kaurava King. Dusshasana would kill anyone if his brother commanded him to do so. He would not even think for a moment or stop and ask, “Why?” By nature, he was harmful and his conscience never stopped him from carrying out harmful acts.
On the other hand, some men are good by nature. They never harm anyone. They are emotional by nature and usually express repetitive benevolent thoughts, words, and actions. In Mahabharata, Yudhishtira, the Pandava, was such a person. He was good by birth, truthful and benevolent to all. He will not even tell a white lie. He was so emotional about truthfulness. But, he also lived on his emotions and seldom used his intellect. Because of that, he could not do anything, even when he knew that playing dice with the Kauravas could prove to be hazardous to him and his family’s very existence. He led his brothers and families to the forest, as he lost the game. The loss was inevitable. His own blind truthfulness was his own enemy.
So, if the head of an organisation is emotionally good, one who just follows a set rules and never uses his intellect to change anything or adapts to help himself and his company, the company is most likely to suffer. It is easy to follow a set rules. It is difficult to improvise. So, most managers are like this. They just walk the beaten path. They cannot take a company to the next level unless nature automatically aids its progress. Then, the success of the company has nothing to do with the manager’s calibre.
Then comes the intellectual negative. There are many such people in the world. They are extremely intelligent. They present things very well. They prepare elaborate plans and impress everyone. The end result is always for their personal welfare. They are selfish to the core. They can easily make the above two categories of people dance according to their tune because they are truly eloquent and immensely presentable. In Mahabharata, Sakuni, the maternal uncle of Duryodhana, was a very intelligent man. He plotted the whole drama. He played dice with Yudhishtira. He was intelligent. He knew the limitations of his enemy. He knew how far Yudhishthira would go. He created the fall and surrender of Yudhishthira and his family. For an intellectually negative person, life is all about scheming and plotting, without actually making it seem so. They are never transparent. They are sweet talkers. They are cunning. Treachery is their toy.
Passive people suffer at their hands. We can see many politicians in today’s world who are of this nature. They make their whole country dance to their tune while they accumulate personal wealth. They are usually good actors too. If such a man leads a company, it will prosper, but, the maximum benefit will eventually go to him. He will work out things in such a way, that he earns what he targets and sometimes beyond, even if he has to compromise the company, its staff, and its reputation.
He never cares about anyone except himself and his family. He will not care much about his staff and he will demand work, even at the cost of their equilibrium. He will pamper some if it is good for him. He will express selfishness visibly and in disguise.
Now comes the last but the best of them all. The good man who lives by his intellect. Lord Krishna is the right example of that. He is good by nature, even if we ignore his “avatar” stature. An intellectually good man has no selfish dreams. He lives for the betterment of the society or the country. Loka Samastha Sukhino Bhavanthu. He never cares about himself or his personal gains. He does not count in terms of money to nurture any relationships for selfish ends. He lives his whole life for others. But, he does not blindly and emotionally follow principles, like the emotionally good man who inevitably ends up in problems. Instead, he would use the truth measuring the advantages of a situation. He is superior to all the above three because of his selflessness and because of his capacity to think and act. He can never be dragged into any foolish commitment. He is transparent and benevolent. He feels for others and he truly does something about it. He dares and he has no fears of any kind.
Lethargy or procrastination is not his cup of tea. He lives a life of selflessness and intelligent truthfulness. He has the capacity to take a country from dungeons of despair to the height of bliss. He knows what he is doing and how to go about it. If such a man is the boss of a company, the investors and the staff will experience true well-being. This boss knows everything about every member of staff and he truly cares. He will make sure each one is well-taken care of and nobody is abandoned.
His distribution of work will also be based on individual capacities. Overburdening someone or being partial to someone will never take place. He genuinely cares and it will show. If an organisation gets such a manager, it is a true blessing. They are very rare in today’s world that teaches competition and supremacy. Even though it is difficult to see such people, it is never impossible.
We should feel. We should be sensitive towards ourselves and all others. Our progress and happiness should not be the only priority. Others should also be happy. Happiness if shared, multiplies. Sorrow, if shared, decreases. Hence, both need to be shared. Express benevolence unconditionally, without expectations. It is worth it. Trust me.
There are hundreds of rivers. There is one ocean. Even if there are different names for the same ocean, the ocean is one. Names do not matter. The essence matters. The substance matters.
There was a sea captain. He sailed all his life in search of the Pacific Ocean. He could not find the ocean until a wise sea-farer told him: “My friend, where you are now, is the Pacific Ocean indeed. It is not someplace away from you. This very ocean that you sail on, is the Pacific.”
We are all sailors, in search of an exotic shore. Our search is so intense that we fail to recognize or appreciate how exotic the place below our feet really is!!! The dream merchants sell stories of fanciful lands far, far away. We believe in their dreams and take up the sail. Until we exhaust ourselves, we seldom find out that the journey itself was unnecessary. The dreams that we sailed for were within us, always. All we needed to do was just to shut our eyes and go to sleep from this conscious world. All we needed to do was just open our eyes within and look inside. The treasure chest is not outside of us. It always exists within us. Period. All you need is an inner awakening. So, Do Wake Up. Rise and Shine!!!
There was a great dreamer. He thrived on selling his dreams. Lazy pedestrians stood and listened to the narration of his enchanting dreams and many even bought these dreams from him. There was one man who punctually came every day to listen to his dreams. He used to buy and accumulate dreams. His wife got suspicious. Where is this guy going every day, spending all the money that he earns? She followed him and reached the dream seller. After every story, her husband paid some money. That evening, she cautioned her husband. She made him understand that the money he was spending was emptying their very coffers. She and their children have no means for further life. He did not change a bit. He was so used to his comfortable routine. So, he continued his regular ways. One day, he realised that his house was not his anymore and he and his family were actually thrown out onto the street. He was homeless and had no money to feed himself and his family. He was shaken by reality. He went and met the dream seller and told him his real story expecting him to return some of the money that he paid earlier. The dream seller said: “I like your story. But, I cannot buy it. This is your reality. Not my dream. You yourself must handle your own reality”.
Do we buy dreams about the future? Is someone constantly selling us dreams? Beware. Stick to your waking reality. Life does not happen in the future. Life happens NOW.
There was a learned man. Every evening, the learned man called the villagers and explained many complicated philosophical materials at length. People were awed at his knowledge. They went back home saying, “What a learned man!!!, we are lucky to have him here with us.” He was very intelligent and was quite shrewd as well. He very well knew how to manipulate the seekers who come to him, thirsting for guidance. He was a good businessman. He used his power of speech to capture the hearts of the villagers and soon became their chieftain. His ego and arrogance grew along with his possessions and power. He also added a big title to his name and behaved like a spiritual Master, as well as a renunciate. He started calling himself an enlightened Master. Instead of humility, his ego and arrogance increased.
There was a poor old saint living close to his house. The villagers respected him. He lived on the food that the villagers gave him as alms. In return, he gave them his blessings and free advice. His very presence purified the people and premises. He wore torn clothes and lived in one room. During the rainy season, water flowed inside drenching the whole room. Even though he was in a pathetic condition, he had no complaints about anything. He accepted his life as it was. The learned man thought that it was time he proved his worth in front of this saint too. He thought that it would add to his respectability and acceptance in the society if the saint was on his side. He arranged for the saint to live in a house close to his abode. The saint reluctantly agreed. He behaved as if this was the saint’s approval of his knowledge and stature. The poor guy did not understand that the saint’s purpose was to put some real wisdom into him and make him benevolent to the villagers, rather than increasing his arrogance. The saint, with his divine presence, wanted to lighten the darkness of terrestrial vasanas of the learned man and make him truly useful for the society. The society never actually needed the dull intellectual heaviness that he poured into them, profusely, every day. It only added to their confusion and never got anyone enlightened with it. He himself was a pretender who never got enlightened.
Once, during his regular evening session, a boy asked the learned man – “Sir, whom can we call truly healthy?”. The saint was also listening to this question. The learned man started explaining about health and the status of being healthy, which he had read and remembered from various books. He had only book knowledge to convey. The whole crowd was dissatisfied. Finally, the boy took permission and asked the same question to the saint who had always been a silent spectator of the drama. The saint slowly muttered: “One who eats in limit, one who sleeps in limit, one who acts in limit, one who is not prone to violent emotions, one whose needs are limited, one who never stands to prove anything, one who maintains equanimity, and one who is beyond duality – is the healthiest man in this whole world. Everyone understood clearly. They realized, true wisdom is simple. True spirituality is simplicity. It has nothing to do with a craving for fame, acceptance, and fortune. The whole group of listeners applauded the saint’s wisdom. The learned man was also humbled in the most natural way.
Our world is full of learned men who pretend to be saints. They have only book knowledge. They have no real experience. They themselves are blinded and they are leading the rest to the ocean of karmic quagmire. It is not in the looks. It is not in the words; but, it’s in the ability to deliver experiences which makes a teacher become a real Guru. Transferable knowledge is aplenty. All one needs is a good memory. Transferring an experience needs calibre and real mettle. This is the difference between an acharya and a Guru. We call anybody with a white beard – Guru. We even give them fancy titles. These acharyas need titles because they are insecure without it. But, where is the real mettle? Titles cannot guarantee stature. Stature has got to be earned only through generations of rigorous spiritual practices. So is enlightenment. Enlightenment has to happen. It will happen only at the appointed time and space. Even if one does all the right spiritual practices, one cannot achieve enlightenment, until he is ripe and ready; until he is established in the beingness. Book knowledge is a big barrier. Ego is another barrier. Samskaaras are all barriers. When the vessel is completely empty, divinity fills in. Otherwise, this is another dream like all the other dreams. Masters can deliver, but, Masters deliver only when the pot is empty. Master appears to deliver. We need not go searching for one.
The world is full of pretenders, who obscure the real Gurus. They are like clouds obscuring the sun. They cannot take away the sun’s glory. The real ones seldom come out into the open. Those ones who pretend do everything possible to make their voice heard. They say one thing and mean another thing because they are insecure. They are worried about the erosion of their source of income – disciples. They tell you what you like to hear so that you stick to them. If that’s not working, they put fear and guilt into you, so that you will not run away from them. They cannot take you to enlightenment because they themselves are not enlightened. Beware of the pretenders in the path of spirituality, because they are aplenty and they will look more real than the real ones. In the above story, the old saint was real, but, never pretended and he was ignored by the villagers. The empty pot which made the maximum noise was considered as real and revered. This is the truth of life. This is the way our world is. We vote for color and glamor, which catches our senses and mind. We ignore the often colorless and unpretentious reality which only appeals to our spirit. Who cares about the spirit? Sankaracharya said “Parame Brahmani Kopina Sakta” – Alas!!! no one, even for a moment, considers the soul, the Brahman which resides in oneself, ever in life until one’s death…when one has to leave everything and go. But then, unfortunately, its too late.
I wish your eyes to see and recognize the real truth. If you choose color and glamor instead of the life-transforming grace and miracle, it is purely your discretion. No need to regret. Just go ahead. The decision is always yours.
My father is a medical doctor. He is an orthopaedic surgeon. I never interacted with him qualitatively, when I was a child. He has always been busy. But, sooner or later, I realised that he is a benevolent man and people were respecting him because of his truthfulness, honesty, and sincerity. Once, I overheard him saying this to a patient’s relative: “I have done (surgery on the patient) what best any doctor can possibly do. I have done my best. Now, leave the rest to God Almighty. Pray for a speedy recovery.” I thought – Why can’t he promise a cure? Is he not confident enough? Later on, I realized that it is actually the Divinity that heals. We can only do our best, under the given circumstances.
Nature takes care of creation, maintenance, and dissolution. We feel we are doing everything. We feel that it is through our actions and words that everything takes place. Actually speaking, we are being used by nature in aiding this grand process called life. All of us are tools and part of the Divine design. It is a grand collaboration. Many pieces dancing to one tune, and yet, actually creating the effect of many!!!
As children, we pick up impressions from elders and continue to do so as we grow. Hence, it is important to “behave ourselves” as children are constantly watching and collecting impressions.
Once we grow up, we start taking everything too seriously, clinging on to our expectations. We are constantly getting frustrated when our expectations do not bear fruit. Right? So, it is important to keep asking “So what?”
Let me explain. I tried my best in performing a particular task, yet, it was not good enough. Should I blame myself or consider myself inferior to others? No way. I tell myself: “My best was not good enough. So what? There is always a next time. I shall try to do better, the next time. If another opportunity does not appear, So what? There will be something else more interesting. This is how life works. We all are functioning within our limitations, whether we know it or not.”
Likewise, anytime you end up blaming yourself or adding guilt to your existence, just ask yourself: “So what?”. Never allow guilt to take root. Keep asking, at all points, “So what?”
The same applies to our ego and doer-ship. When others praise us and we see our ego getting bloated, ask – “So what?”. Everything is changing every moment. Maintaining equanimity during changing times is important. Expectations get beaten time after time. Keep asking “So what?” Once we make this a habit, we will be travelling light, without the burden of guilt and fear.
Now, please do not think that we can do everything good, bad or ugly and say “So what” and feel perfectly fine. No. Negative actions, words, and thoughts are not at all good for spiritual evolution. Non- Violence in thoughts, words, and actions are essential. There are no two ways about it.
Asking ourselves “So what” is only for confirming to ourselves that our best effort needs to be accepted by our conscious mind and use this question to fight any guilt, if at all. Being benevolent is important. Being compassionate is important too. Having these qualities intact within us, if we could not perform up to our expectation, just destroy the guilt with the question – “So what?”.