Dear Embodiments of Love,
On this auspicious occasion of Guru Purnima, we meet once again and discuss the year ahead. Last year, we spoke a lot pertaining to our life, our existence, and living our life in a holistic way. This year, we look for or look at how to be “you” in a situation or in a variety of things in life. There are lots and lots of different emotions running around in life,
This year, I traveled a lot and met a lot of people. Most of the people came with four different or four main aspects (or a combination of them) which were bothering them – relationships, job, children, and, of course, confusions regarding spirituality. I think that this is mostly pertaining to something outside of you. I was telling a lot of people, why are you looking outside so much? Why don’t you look within? If you spend less time looking outside and more time looking inside, I think you have all the solutions within you. You do not need any Guru to tell you how your relationship should be, how your job should be, how you should take care of your children, how you should take care of society, how you should move around in the world outside; because everything depends on how you can move within your own world, which is inside you. You must learn to move within your own world and if you learn that, if you are fully satisfied and occupied with that, the outside world does not matter. You will be very fluent in the outside world.
When we start comparing ourselves with other things, when we have too many expectations with life or with people, with relationships, then there is bound to be sorrow. We blame other people for our problems. It is not other people but how we are that makes other people respond to us in that way and decides what we create in life? The realities that we create in life start from us. How we see the world outside, how we see people, how we interact with people, how we love people, how we expect from people, what you expect from people, etc. They are all karmic beings. All the birds, animals, trees, wind, sun – everything is working on the basis of dharma (duty) and karma (the inevitable lifeline of existence). When you are clear and when you are aware that this is all happening in their symmetry, in their constitution and the way it should be, you look within and see why you cannot agree with it, why there is no acceptance. If we cannot accept ourselves, we cannot accept anybody.
The fundamental question is — have we accepted ourselves? Do you like yourself or do you love yourself? When did you hug yourself the last time or when did you look at yourself the last time? Everything you want in life sits within you. Our abundance, our happiness, our sorrows, our life outside or life inside – it is all here, with us, within us. If you are clear and if you are aware that this is how the whole of life is working, spirituality blossoms inside by itself. Spirituality is not something which you can gain from outside. You can only gain information from outside, gain guidance from outside. What happens in your life happens from inside, whether it is spirituality, whether it is relationships, whether it is agreement, disagreement or whatever else in life, this is your creation. You created your existence. Without your existence, there is no life outside for you. You have to have your body, your mind, your intellect.
Now, why is the mind occupying more space than anything else? That is the question you should ask yourself. Why is my mind so judgmental, why do I compare? Why do I feel so many things so intensely? What makes those emotions come to me? What made those people come to me? There is something within us which we attract or which attracted all these things. So, this is one fundamental thing that we must be aware of. Accept yourself; clearly, firmly, lovingly, accept yourself. Then you accept the world outside and even if you accept the world or reject the world, the world will be the same. It is your mental constitution or satisfaction, or your feeling that, “Oh, because I rejected it, it has gone away.” That is just an illusion. Nothing has gone away. The sun is still rising, the stars are still shining. Whether we are alive or not, it will continue.
So what can you give to the world? What have you given to the world? The minimum that you can give to the world — when you wake up in the morning, be fresh, take a bath, chant or do meditation, and then go and smile at the world. You can give a good smile to the world and the world will feel better, or you will feel that the world is better. Likewise, you have hands. Help unconditionally. Do not expect anything, just help. Then the world is a better place. You have your legs. Walk for others’ purpose. Walk selflessly. Walk for others’ peace. You have your heart, let it beat for serving other people. Service is purification. When you serve somebody unconditionally without expectation, it purifies you. It makes you more eligible for higher frequency, higher awareness. World is all about energy, frequency, matter as well as energy that makes the matter (which is energy conglomerated) – energy and frequency. So the higher frequency you attain, the more you are able to balance your life. Life is about balancing. What are you balancing in life? You are balancing your constitution, your character, your body, your mind and your intellect. You are balancing everything so that you can experience life without any obstruction. It is a flow. You are flowing.
Service With the Right Attitude – The Attitude of Serving Yourself
Now having spoken about acceptance, having said what you can give to the world —the fundamental thing being charity or service. I will not even use the word charity because “charity” has sometimes become a not so appealing word. Why has it become like that? Mainly because whenever we talk about charity, there is a giver and a taker. When you think about charity, there should be no giver, no taker, because everything is you. Like you have your hands, legs, and feet, every organ of action and every organ of perception in your system, all beings outside are also part of your system. You may not feel some of them as a part of your system, but they are like the tree and the plants and the earth and the wind and the moon and the sun; everything is connected to you in various frequencies.
So when you serve somebody, you are serving yourself. Please be aware of it. Think about it. Contemplate on it. You are not doing anything for the sake of another. You are doing it for the sake of yourself. You can only do anything for the sake of yourself. If you feel that you are doing it for other people, understand there is ignorance inside.You do no favor to anybody else. Actually, you are doing yourself a favor, if it is a favor. Otherwise, you are doing only what you like to do so that you feel happy. When you serve the people, let it be with this attitude. You are happy, you are feeling great, you are feeling richer because you share. Whenever we share something, it grows inside us and it removes the blocks. Like you serve food, an abundance of food happens in your life. When you serve something wholeheartedly —time, space, love, whatever you have — it brings more and more of that stuff into your life. You are experiencing abundance because you are sharing it.
When you hold it, you become like the Dead Sea. The river brings water to the Dead Sea but it creates nothing out of the Dead Sea. Many people are like that – barren land. There are so many things coming to them, but they give nothing back to earth. They live and they die. The world has nothing to do with them. Perhaps they had a lot to do with the world, but the world gained nothing from them. Do we want to live such an existence? What are we here for? Every moment can be of service. We can help somebody. You cannot satisfy everybody. Do not try to satisfy people, but serving as per your capacity is definitely your call. You can do that.
Comparison – Stop Comparing
The universe has worked hard to create a unique being and you want to be like somebody else. Impossible! The universe has programmed itself to create every being unique. All individuals are unique. Everybody is unique. That is the beauty of creation. Now if you choose to compare yourself with another, that is non-understanding. You cannot be somebody else. Somebody else is somebody else. They have their weaknesses and strengths. Remember – nobody is perfectly strong, nobody is perfectly weak. Everybody is a mixture. So accept everybody outside as themselves and do not try to be them. Try to add value to them by your existence. So every moment when you walk in the street or when you are living your life, try to add value to the world outside. So in that way, every moment is worthwhile and that makes you richer inside and abundance will flow into you. So accept the world outside. Do not compare. This is the third point.
The fourth point I would like to talk about is spirituality. I do not understand why we chase spirituality. Spirituality is your relationship with your spirit, with your soul. Soul is inside. What are we looking for outside? You can only look for something perishable outside. Whatever you take from outside, you can keep it only for some time. You cannot keep it forever. Whatever you take from outside, it will stay with you as long as it has to. Nothing will stay forever, including the body which you have taken from outside. It will stay only as long as your karma allows it to stay. With this awareness think about what we are chasing from outside, what we are gaining from outside?
From a Guru, from a book, from a path, all you gain is guidance. Take the guidance, be respectful, be grateful, and connect yourself more and more with your spirit, with your soul. That is spirituality. Do not complicate it. Do not try to do something else. Activity sometimes satisfies you, but the lack of activity depresses you as well. So action has a problem. You will have to be continuously in the action mode. If you are not in the action mode, the moment in time when you move to the inaction mode, it depresses you. There should be a balance. Whether it is action or inaction you are peaceful. If that is the case, you must be married to your soul. That is the permanent marriage you can think about. That is forever, and when I say you, I mean you as the projected personality. This projected personality should be married to the projector, the soul. Once you are connected fully, integrally into the soul, you have no worries, no anxieties, no sorrows, no happiness. You are perfectly in a bliss state, you are peaceful, you are happy.
Everything is inside. All things are inside, and whatever you thought is outside is a part of you, like the extension of your organs of action and perception. They were all there, they are all part of you, they have always been there. This is one point you must remember. Spirituality is your marriage with your spirit. You are already married. Right from birth till death, you will be married. All the outside relationships and marriages are temporary. They have come for a particular time and for a particular reason and they will depart, some with pain, some with happiness, but both have to happen. When something comes, it has to go. Nothing stays forever.
That is why various Masters have repeatedly said that the moment you stop seeking, you have it. You have really found it. You have to stop seeking. Why are we to stop seeking? Because we are mostly seeking outside. We are looking at things outside of us. And when we stop seeking that, you slowly withdraw. Your senses are withdrawn, your mind is withdrawn, everything merges with you and then you start feeling your subtlety. You can use breath for that. Breathe in, breathe out, be with the breath, go within and stay with the breath. The mind will push you to go outside. Allow the mind to do that. Do not worry. Again you come back. So, do not fight too much with the mind and get tired because you cannot win your mind. You have to allow the mind to be itself so that it does not bother you and then you connect to your breath, connect to your heartbeat, connect to every cell of yours. If there are 600 trillion cells in your body, become every cell and feel the cell. Feel your body, feel your organs. When you keep on feeling you will stop looking and start living.
Life is about how you feel or how you can feel, what your capacity to feel is. First and fundamental is feeling yourself, feeling your breath, feeling your heart beat, feeling everything, and then you feel the whole universe. You will only feel, you will not see. Whatever you see outside is you. It is your extension. There are no people, there are no trees, no plants. Everything is you. There is nothing to search for, nothing to collect, to conquer, to occupy. There is nothing. You are just you. You are free and you have been free. You become so easy and transparent like a flowing river and you will know that this is exactly what it should be, how it should be. Hundred percent freedom occupies you, freedom becomes you, and then you become freedom. This is real freedom. If you want even one thing from this world outside, you are a slave of that wish, you are a slave of that desire. When you have one desire, you are occupied, your mind is occupied, your mind is thriving.
When you have no desire, you do not need the mind. Mind is dissolved. Consciousness takes over and this consciousness will overwhelm you and by “overwhelm” we mean not in a kind of doing mode or action mode. Overwhelm means you will become completely in a state of bliss, where you will only radiate bliss. When you come to some place, you will be like a magnet because you are only radiating bliss, you are radiating love. There are no demands, there are no expectations, there are no wants. You will not harm anybody because you cannot. There is nothing outside of you. How can you harm your own hand or own leg? Just like that you cannot harm anybody else. You will not hurt anybody. Because there is nothing to hurt, nothing called hurt. Hurt happens only in the ego or mind. There is no ego or mind to get hurt. So you will be happy, you will be flowing. Whatever you say will be for the good purpose.
Remember, if you display anger because your intention is good, then that anger is good. If you display anger out of hatred, it is bad because you have created poison inside. It is coming out of the poison which is inside you. If you are angry because you love the person and you want the person to be nice and good, or to do better in life, that anger is good, just like a mother’s anger or display of anger to the child who is sick. The mother will say, “If you do not have the medicine, I will beat you”. The mother does not mean to beat the child, but she is concerned that if the child does not take medicine, there will be a problem. So the mother will speak with a particular intensity so that the child understands and the child gets cured. Likewise, a Guru, or a true friend or a guide may scold somebody because they are concerned about a person. They know something is wrong and they want to help. That is okay. Even if you use sharp words or be rude to another person because you love them, this is okay. They may not understand you, but you are right and eventually they will understand you. That is why sometimes the best medicine is bitter, and it is required because the cure is important.
Having said that, I do not want to elaborate any further. I think I have given you sufficient guidelines for the next year. The next year should be a year of bliss. Stop worrying about other people. Start connecting to yourself. Settle down in yourself. Do not look outside. It is not worth it. When you are settled within yourself, even if you look outside, you will be still inside. That is okay, because you are settled inside. Use the rest of the year to settle down inside yourself properly, for which you need to feel yourself, you need to hug yourself, you need to love yourself, you need to listen to yourself, remember yourself. Instead of trying to prove repeatedly to the world outside, suffer in the bargain and always chase something, always have conflict in relationships and suffering, you start accepting. When you actually accept yourself and see other people as extensions of yourself, there will be no suffering, there cannot be suffering. You do not have suffering if there is no comparison, no expectation, no anger, no hatred, no jealousy. If there is nothing like that, there is no suffering. You are free. That is how it should be. I wish you that and I love you and I am always with you.
Thank you for tolerating me this year, all these days, I have been with all of you for a long time and some of you have been with me for a number of days, number of weeks, months. I thank you for all what you have done to help me to serve the world. I really love it and I really appreciate it. If I have not thanked you in person for all that you have done in the last one year, I would like to thank you now. Thank you for all that you have done to smoothen my journey or the mission which I am doing. I do not believe that I have done much in this last one year. I wish I could have done more, but of course, we have our capacity limitations, locations, problems. You understand I could not reach many of you. I know some of you tried to reach me but we could not meet. But remember in Consciousness we have already met, we are always meeting. So please understand and try to connect to the Consciousness. If I have not replied to your mails, your messages, it is not out of any discrimination. It is just because I could not handle it or I could not help it. Now, we will continue to meet for the rest of this year until next year and let us all unite beyond all barriers of mind, ego, intellect. Let us unite and do whatever we can for the world, which is yourself, and let us all be rich inside. Outside richness has very limited value because it can come and go. So we cannot say that it can be there forever. But inner richness stay with us and that is worth nurturing. Let us do that.
I love you and wish you a great Guru Purnima and always and always, I am with you.